“Undoing the Madness: A Message to the Young Men Following Andrew Tate”

 

This young man wasn’t full of hate. He was full of confusion. 

 

He wanted to feel strong. In control. Respected. He wanted to be someone. And somewhere along the line, he was led to believe that being dominant, dismissive, and emotionally cold was the way to get there. Because that’s the version of masculinity that’s being sold to him online, shiny, loud, and completely unrealistic. 

 

Andrew Tate has done more than just go viral, he’s hijacked masculinity and repackaged it into something extreme, cold, and harmful. And the scariest part? He mixes some truth in with it, which is what pulls people in. 

 

Yes, men do need guidance. 

Yes, we should encourage self-discipline and responsibility. 

Yes, society doesn’t always make it easy for young men to find their place. 

 

But Tate’s answers are built on fear, control, and a complete lack of compassion. 

 

He teaches young men that vulnerability is weakness. That women are to be owned or controlled. That success only looks like money, dominance, and power. And if a young man is already insecure, already unsure of himself, that message sticks. 

 

It gives him a mask to wear, tough, angry, cold. 

But underneath that mask is still a boy who feels like he’s not enough. 

 

This is especially dangerous for young men with ADHD. 

 

 

 

Many of them grow up feeling like they’re failing at being “good enough.” So when someone like Tate comes along, loud, confident, unapologetic, it can feel like finally, someone sees them. Someone powerful. Someone who doesn’t follow the rules either. 

 

But here’s the danger: they’re not seeing healthy strength, they’re seeing a performance. 

 

They’re being told that being aggressive or dominant will earn them respect. That masking pain with arrogance will bring power. And when you’ve grown up with emotional dysregulation or rejection sensitivity, that kind of message can be intoxicating. 

 

They need people who see them, understand them, and help them build real strength, the kind that includes emotional awareness, connection, and self-worth. 

 

 

You don’t have to act like someone else’s idea of a man to be one. 

You can cry. You can ask for help. You can respect women without being “weak.” 

You can choose kindness and still be strong. 

 

We need to show young men what healthy masculinity looks like. Not the extreme version designed for clicks and followers, but the real version, built on self-worth, emotional strength, respect, and care for others. 

 

The truth is, undoing this mess isn’t going to be easy. 

There are thousands of young men being pulled into this way of thinking every day. 

But we can start with conversations. We can listen. We can challenge harmful views without shaming the person who holds them. 

 

We have to meet them where they are, not with judgment, but with truth. 

 

Because if we don’t, Andrew Tate and others like him will keep filling that gap. 

 

If you’ve been drawn in by Tate’s message, I want you to know this: 

 

You are allowed to think for yourself. 

You are allowed to be kind and still be powerful. 

You are allowed to respect women and still respect yourself. 

You are allowed to let go of that anger, it’s not helping you grow. 

 

And if you’ve got ADHD — know this: 

You are not broken. 

You are not weak. 

And you are not alone.